Bestie for the Restie
Personal opinion, but if you have to start your conversation with your best friend with a disclaimer, then is she your best friend? Like you text her and say, “Hey this is totally TMI.” Or “This is probably TMI but….” I just feel like you haven’t hit that level of best friend turned sisterhood just yet. I know I can text my girls and be like “soooooo I peed my pants today when I sneezed”. Or if I can’t text her and be like “Girl. The period is heavvyyyy today and the blood is never-ending.” It could even be like “I love him but today I want to throat punch him” and she doesn’t miss a beat and is right there for you with some words of wisdom or feels what you’re saying in to her soul. You know you found your person. That’s when you know that your best friend has officially become the sister that God knew you needed but wasn’t about to put you two in the same household because let’s be honest, your feral selves wouldn’t have made it out alive. One of you has taken that role as the older sister. I think most people have that older sibling person in their life that they can lean on and cry to over the littlest things, and she is still there, like the big things that have happened to them in their life. She’s not afraid to show you some tough love, not because she’s trying to be that mean older sister, but because she knows you can handle it, because you are stronger than what you are giving yourself credit for.
Every girl needs a sister. Every girl needs someone whom she can look up to, who she can trust with her literal life, someone you wants to text when she’s accomplished something, or the first one you turns to when something happens and it shakes you to your core. Your girlfriend has your back, and the same thing about you- you will always have her back. You guys are constantly praying for each other, either together or silently throughout the day. She is your person who will come alongside you and help you fight your battles and will never leave or abandon you.
You can have those unfiltered talks, whether it’s in a car trip or over coffee. You know she won’t judge you and will help you problem solve or just be the ear you need to have a venting a session. She is your person, and you are hers.
Have a relationship where the titles interweave with each other: best friends, sisters, sometimes one of you has to pull the mom card every once in awhile (let’s be honest- we all need the mom card from time to time.) but when you go to describe her to someone you just call her family because to the world that is who she is but to you she is your world.
****Bonus Points if your husbands get along and even more bonus points if they are friends, and you all have come together as a family. You can have fellowship together, you can trust your best friend and your husband together, if you leave the room because most likely they are talking about you, or giving each other grief like siblings do. They make you a better person. Your husband will always be your person, but your girlfriend is also your person, just on a different level of connection. Your husband knows he can pick up the phone and text her that you’re having an off day, and he needs help with a pick-me-up, because she knows how to help you on those rough days.
Heck, you might even text her mom or dad on Mother’s/Father’s Day and wish them a great day because you are a part of their family. You know their kids’ birthdays. You pray for their children, and they pray for yours. She can always count on you to make it to her kids ‘ school activities and will never have to worry that no one will show up for them because you will ALWAYS be there. One of you has taken on that role as the crazy aunt who isn’t afraid to get thrown out of the game because someone did our kid dirty. Your kids know they will always have a safe person outside of mom and dad to go to for all the hard stuff. You can trust that they can go over and spend the night with them, and while they are most likely getting hyped up on sugar, they will be safe. If they have a nightmare, they won’t have to navigate the darkness alone because she won’t let you navigate the darkness alone, and without a doubt, she won’t let your child do the same.
She is the person God knew you needed to make it through this crazy journey of life.
